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20 August 2011 @ 09:26 pm
There's "thinking ahead", and then there's this....  
Talking yesterday with a customer I've known for a number of years. In all the time I've known her she's been single, but yesterday she was all a-flutter about the new man in her life. She happily extolled his many virtues, and openly told me where the relationship was up to (too much information, but hey, she's happy!).
I'm really happy for her, but I was utterly blindsided by one part of her conversation. She said she needs to look at her financial situation, because she's wanting to retire in six years (she's 59) but he's younger than her, and as he earns nearly double her income, she won't be entitled to a pension when she retires.
"So what," you may be thinking, "too many people fail to plan; the fact that she's planning is a good thing, right?"



They've been seeing each other for exactly four weeks today.

I dunno, maybe I'm just too cynical in my old age you kids, get off my lawn!
sunray45: B&D NoStone B&W Jaycatsunray45 on August 20th, 2011 01:01 pm (UTC)
It is good to plan ahead, but..... She's jumping the gun a bit there. Do you know how much younger the boyfriend is?

So, she is thinking marriage and that he will keep her when she retires? That's a bit much to plan on after only knowing him for four weeks.

I'm with you - very cynical. *g*
miwahni: Dr Who I want to believemiwahni on August 21st, 2011 10:22 am (UTC)
Boyfriend's 53. She doesn't want to be kept when she retires, which is why she's rearranging her finances right now. I'm just amazed that anyone could think, after only four weeks, that this could be the one that lasts forever.
Hope it does though.
Strike while the irony is hot: EMO -- THINK -- PONDERSdraycevixen on August 20th, 2011 02:21 pm (UTC)

I have three family members (two by marriage) and two different friends who got engaged or married (big eeep!) within two months of meeting each other. Three of them are still married, the longest for 30 odd years, the shortest for about five (so far). For the other two, one of them ended up being married for 27 days (it took longer for the divorce to become final but his wife moved out then saying she knew she was making a mistake as she walked down the aisle) and my SIL was married for 15 years.

I dunno either. I understand the optimism but I don't think I'd be changing my financial plans immediately.
miwahni: JB Decisions Rock paper scissorsmiwahni on August 21st, 2011 10:23 am (UTC)
I know it can happen, and for her sake I hope it does; I'd like to see her happy, and it's a very romantic story. But like you, I wouldn't be making life-changing financial decisions just yet.
entropy_houseentropy_house on August 20th, 2011 08:18 pm (UTC)
Many years ago, my brother brought a girl friend over to the house and he started talking about her staying with us while she recovered from some minor surgery. Since we'd never met her or heard him talk about her before, we were taken aback, to say the least. My mother asked how long they'd known each other. 'Oh, a long time' the girl said. 'How long?'mom persisted. 'Two weeks!' was the reply given in all seriousness.

*boggle*... no, we didn't invite her to stay to recuperate.
miwahni: B7 BlakeAvon Watching over youmiwahni on August 21st, 2011 10:24 am (UTC)
A whole two weeks? I'm surprised they weren't planning the wedding *g*.
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miwahni: HP rock paper scissorsmiwahni on August 21st, 2011 10:25 am (UTC)
It may work, and I hope it does. I just wouldn't be rearranging my financial situation just yet on the offchance that this may be the one.