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25 October 2011 @ 09:01 pm
You can't ever go back... can you?  
I had a phone call earlier tonight from a friend who still lives in the country town I moved away from in 2004. She rang to tell me that my equivalent number at her local branch is retiring in December, and had I ever considered moving back?
Well no, no I hadn't really, but her call started me thinking. Because if I put my hand up for the role I'm almost certain I'd get it. There aren't exactly a lot of people who not only have the skills and experience, but also the knowledge of our systems, policies and procedures, in that town. I have a good track record behind me as well, and if it was a choice between training someone up (and giving them at least six months to be properly up and running) or slotting someone in who could basically hit the ground running, they'd be mad to look elsewhere. Especially if the retiring lady (who trained me, and was my boss prior to my moving!) put in a good word for me.
But - and it's a big but - I'm happy here. I have my son, and friends, and I've made a good life for myself. Even though I still have friends down south, people who I miss dearly, I think I'd miss this place more.
I just know, though, that until I hear the position has been filled, it's going to be in the back of my mind the whole time.
Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative
byslantedlight: Slanted autumnleaves (justlook3)byslantedlight on October 25th, 2011 12:25 pm (UTC)
Ooh, I can see how it'd be tempting - things that you know and are comfortable with, but... but I'm not sure if that's what makes us alive - I think you're right, you really shouldn't go back... ever on! (But it's nice to know that you could, right?) *g*
miwahni: pros B&D You'll Be All Rightmiwahni on October 26th, 2011 10:23 am (UTC)
It IS nice to know that I could, especially as my move was dictated by circumstances at the time. But it would be so easy to fall back into old habits and patterns of thought. There is so much more, in the city, to expand my experiences and challenge me.
Strike while the irony is hot: EMO -- THINK -- PONDERSdraycevixen on October 25th, 2011 12:26 pm (UTC)

That's a difficult one but it always seems like you've made a life you're proud of and family and friends? Well, that's what it's all about really, right?

miwahni: Pros ray frownmiwahni on October 26th, 2011 10:25 am (UTC)
Yes, that's what it's about. Family in particular; even though I don't see him anywhere near as often as I'd like to (we're doing lunch on Friday, woo-hoo!) at least I'm in the same city as my son now.
Newsynewsy891 on October 25th, 2011 01:58 pm (UTC)
There were reasons you chose to move away, and it sounds like they were good ones if you've found happiness where you are. Have those reasons changed? And are those changes reason enough to move back? Keep writing down all the good and all the bad, like you've started here, and use that to make peace with whatever decision you make. No reason to keep looking at it in the back of your mind.
miwahni: pros bd tablemiwahni on October 26th, 2011 10:28 am (UTC)
Actually, the reasons HAVE changed, and one of them was simply that I couldn't move upwards into a full lending role in that town unless my boss retired! Which of course is why my dilemma... *g*
But I've taken your advice, and made a (mental) list of everything I'd be giving up if I was to move back, versus what I'd gain, and it ain't gonna happen. I'm staying put.
So thanks, Coach K!
andreaandreathelion on October 25th, 2011 04:19 pm (UTC)
That's really a difficult decision, but you sound happy where you are now and sometimes it is better to look forward and not back.
miwahni: pros B & D doorwaymiwahni on October 26th, 2011 10:29 am (UTC)
Well that's it, I AM happy where I am now. I've decided that I will stay here, and I'm feeling pretty good about that decision - although I did spend half an hour going through real estate listings for the town! *g* Ah moving itself is such a hassle, that's the best reason to stay put.
anonpussynameranonpussynamer on November 26th, 2011 06:35 pm (UTC)
Re: You can't ever go back... can you?
You know for a fact that there are those of us who'd welcome you back with open arms - and a bottle of the Cheeky Stuff *wink*! - but I do know what you mean about not being able to go back too. However, saying that, life does move on and on, doesn't it, and it is the ultimate adventure.

On another note, I can send you heaps of photos of the country town of course (gawd, am up there once a fortnight *g*!) any time you want.

*huge hugs* and yes, I hopefully am back on LJ too. :)))
miwahni: Boosh crimp luremiwahni on November 27th, 2011 07:07 am (UTC)
Re: You can't ever go back... can you?
I'd like to think you'd welcome me back *g*. And the cheeky stuff doesn't sound too bad at all! I do miss the place, you know. Even the beaches, yet I hardly ever went. It was knowing that I could, I suppose. So there are reasons for me to go, but - there are no reasons for me to leave here, if you get the difference. Still lovin' it.
anonpussynameranonpussynamer on November 28th, 2011 03:25 pm (UTC)
Re: You can't ever go back... can you?
Of course we would!!!! Whyever do you think we wouldn't *g*!!!! Will get a bottle of the cheeky stuff (and a bottle of Passion Pop for me - I've got inexpensive tastes .. hahaha) and have a party .... I wish. :) Know what you mean about the beaches - it's been years since I've been swimming and a while since even going to the beach - but they're there if we want to go, aren't they?

I get the difference - and good to hear you're still lovin' it. *g*