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01 May 2016 @ 12:47 am
Just the saddest thing  
On my fiftieth birthday my stepmum presented me with a folder containing my family history, as far back as she could trace it. I was surprised to learn I had an aunt that I'd never heard of - Betty Jean, born in 1930 with cerebral palsy and placed into a childrens' home, where she died around 1947, according to one of my surviving aunts. My stepmum had her birth certificate, but couldn't find her death certificate anywhere, so she left the actual date of death blank.

Now I know why. One of my cousins called me tonight - he'd had a call from the Public Trustee's office who were trying to trace Betty Jean's relatives, as she had died in November last year.

All that time. Imagine that - 85 years spent in institutions, never knowing you had a family out there in the real world, never having that connection with people that loved and accepted her. I'm going to see what I can find out about her, although I don't hold out much hope. And it's too much to hope that her life was a good one.
Current Mood: sadsad
mrua7: blinky black catmrua7 on April 30th, 2016 09:00 pm (UTC)
That is so tragic. One can only hope she had a decent life. It was a miracle to live to that age with cerebal palsy...if that was indeed what she had?

Due to a family rift on my dad's side of the family, he never knew he had a cousin living not ten minutes away from where we lived. Through some strange Karmic thing I had a conversation with a customer whose mom had the same last name as me. As we talked we named all the same relatives, and family stories. So it was obvious we were related.
She told me one of the grand-uncle's sons was the one living only 10 minutes from where I grew up.

One day he showed up at the store asking for me...an older gentleman who was the spitting image of my grandfather. Shame my dad didn't live to meet his family.

Still not as sad a story as Betty Jean's. Hugs to you!
miwahni: Random Rainbow Earthmiwahni on May 1st, 2016 10:12 am (UTC)
Oh that IS sad, living so close and never meeting!
My surviving aunt had said that Betty Jean was born with cerebral palsy but I don't know that for sure. I'm hoping to find out when I call the home where she was resident when she died.